Do you feel tired running all the time into the same type of comments from the same type of people about the same topics? Well, me too…: BOTTOMS. PART III.

Whether you hit immediately another problem (that is more of a problem of the society than it is a problem of them personally, but it becomes their problem personally because they are being raised by normalized standardized major society).

… we are speaking about who is going to be on top and who is going to bottom. The question of majority when they for the first time meet some gay male. If they might ask, please, what position with your sexual orientation are you taking in bed? Pretty please. They are going to talk to you that they love elements of BDSM personally, but first, please, tell them, what you prefer? Because they are all going to out themselves immediately after as well. Because that is what polite society speaks about among themselves when they are good pals. And though we aren't, they are covertly trying to judge you and decide whether you are deviant or not. Whether you are dangerous or not. Whether you are normal or not. Whether they are going to continue to like you or not. And how much they are going to criticize you behind your back as well. Or what they are going to tell their neighbours about you when they next see them.

Because you are the minority, and we deserve to know more about you, so that we can judge, whether

or not you belong to prison. Whether or not you are a danger to our children. Whether or not we should trust you.

 Though no “we” exists in real life, but suddenly, when a major society runs into something they don't understand, they remember this magical word. 

Burning witches being a stunning example of this collective “we”, where everyone understood how important it is to get rid of witches. Who knows who those poor people were, and if they weren't, by a mistake, for example, your mother?

So, are we going to bottom, and risk being burned, or are we going to for eternity pretend, we are exclusively tops, macho, conquerors who rule the world?

Hard to decide. Harder to tell. And poor actors who only portray these characters, being between two huge millstones.

 

Complementary.

 We need the top to be the strong one. Conquer, aggressive, disgusting, dense, easy to manipulate through one of his organs down there.

We needed a bottom to be the weak sensitive one who needs to be taken care of, who can do the soft work, who is able to be beautiful and empathetic, charming, pleasant, kind, understanding, representative. Polite, delightful, sociable. Introverted, tacit, kind. Patient. Lively. Cute. Worth of (= a.k.a. inspiring) taking care. Funny. Witty. Clever. Intelligent. Sophisticated. Moral. Credible. Reliable… Presentable. Charming. …did you by the way notice that both of these categories can be considered the ones I am using solely (as adjectives) for bottom characters now? Because they definitely can. But the way it manifests is just different in the character who is supposed to be bottom and who is supposed to be top. 

…and the reason for that necessity to be different and complementary is, that the character needs to mellow the bad qualities of the top character (…and soft characters needs to be hardened by the top ones… or needs to be ferociously protected. Hard protected.)

My whole point is, despite them being the most belittled by society, they are the true gem. Thanks to them, the top and his character's individual attributes shine. They are the brave ones who despite being fragile and soft are still strong enough to show their fear, their weaknesses, and their weak spots. To surrender unconditionally. And if the top is worth them, they appreciate them, take care of them, and protect them against the bad big world. Bottoms are the optical prisms that refract light (tops) to make them shine in its most beautiful colours (and vice versa, without light, there would be no rainbow).

And those tops (of this world) who know and don't treat them like it… Well, they are not tops… they are the weaklings in the nest, who didn’t get it and should be belittled by society.

 

…anyone here agrees with this?